Thursday, September 1, 2016


On the day my Dad died, I learned that my friend Red had been admitted into the ICU for acute liver failure.
I met Red, whose real name was Elizabeth Mays, when I was living in Memphis and working on the A show hunter/jumper circuit. A recent high school graduate, she'd been hired by my bosses to baby sit their child and help out in the store. 

Although Red's family had owned horses, she wasn't really a horse girl. She liked them well enough, but they weren't her passion. Despite this, she took to the horse show world like a duck to water. In fact, she eventually took over my job as manager of the travelling tack shop.

That was years later, though. Most of my best memories of Red happened in the Germantown store, where I worked between shows. Red and I always seemed to work the Saturday afternoon shift together, and we spent many a lazy afternoon building Dakins barns, oiling tack and hoping for no last minute customers. 
Oiling tack and goofing off, 1994
And laughing. Oh, there was so much laughing!

I guess that's the thing I will always remember most about Red: She was really, really funny. 
"Essence of Elizabeth"
That, and she loved dogs as much as I do.
Red's beloved dog, Hopper, working hard at the mobile tack shop
I lost track of Red after I moved to Colorado, but she was one of the first people I connected with after joining Facebook in 2008. In the years since then, we've chatted occasionally, mostly about dogs. I had no idea that she was ill prior to August 6.

My friend Red died last night. I will miss her terribly.


  1. I'm so sorry!
    She sounds like an amazing person!

  2. I'm so sorry for your loss, Jennifer. What a crappy year it's been.

  3. My deepest sorrows at this awful loss

  4. Maybe she was spared a long suffering.