Last April, my eighty nine year old mother was involved in a car accident. She was fine, but the car was effectively totaled. She could - or would - not tell us what happened. Right then, we knew her days of living on her own were over.
My sisters and I traveled to Altadena to convince her to move into an assisted living facility. She refused, but we made her do it anyway. For a brief moment, it felt like it might work. It didn't. A month ago, we were told she was no longer welcome in that community.
It's actually quite difficult to find a place for a dementia patient with behavioral issues. There was only one option in the area, but for a brief moment, it seemed like a good one.
It wasn't.
Last night, another resident pushed Mom to the ground. She broke her hip and needs a total hip replacement.
I'm flying back to California tomorrow. I do not know what I will find or how long I will be there.
The hard year just keeps getting harder.
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Hugs friend I hope you guys find peace soon.
ReplyDeleteI'm so so sorry Jen <3
ReplyDeleteThat's super tough and my thoughts are with you.
It's not easy, is it. I look back at your year and it's been harder than 2023 and we thought that year was super hard. My thoughts are with you and I hope you get through this with a remnant of grace and patience.
ReplyDeleteThat's so hard to hear, and all my condolences and best wishes for working thru things. Will be keeping your family in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteSending hugs.
ReplyDeleteSending thoughts of support your way. The medical community fails the elderly and their needs. Its breaks my heart for the families and patients.
ReplyDeleteSending hugs and good vibes from overseas!!
ReplyDeleteOh, such a difficult challenge! I hope you can give yourself some grace- when there are no good options sometimes the best you can do is take a lesser one and work to improve it. And accept that you have done everything possible. Sending strength to you and yours. Betsy in WI.
ReplyDeleteOh Jen, I’m so sorry. I visit residents in exactly those facilities just south of there in my work, and the good ones are great but finding them is a beast. Fingers crossed you find a new placement ASAP ❤️
ReplyDeleteI'm in a similar situation to you, but I have now lost my mother after she was ill for a long time. The bureaucratic nightmare continues.
ReplyDeleteHere in Germany things are probably a little different.
But I think I can still very well empathize with the jungle of feelings and problems you are going through now or will soon be going through.
I wish you lots of strength and people who are there for you, who give you support and security in difficult moments and that a solution is found for everything.
Don't feel guilty for something that can't be solved optimally.
And, very importantly: all the best to your mother! That she can still have a long, good time. And you with her!